Is it the fact of not doubting, of having innumerable knowledge, having success, money, status, a certain image, etc.? Is it to have certainty, convictions, beliefs, values, ideologies? Is it being ambitious, charismatic? Is it to be physically strong, beautiful, to have style?
One can have all of these attributes and yet lack confidence. Because self-confidence is the fruit of an emotional stability born of the understanding of what one is, the fact of knowing oneself, of understanding one's emotions, reactions and motivations. It also means not justifying or condemning or running away from what actually is... It is therefore through not knowing oneself that one loses this deep anchoring which allows one to move forward without doubting. Not to doubt does not mean that there is certainty, quite the contrary. The mind that does not question lives mechanically. It's old before it even starts. The world is filled with this type of arrogant, violent, self-centered individual.
No, confidence is a much more subtle phenomenon. It is the highest form of intelligence. It is a clever mix of humility which is not shyness. It is empathy that is not pity. It is careful observation and listening, which is not useless chatter. It is also total action, which is not procrastination and the fact of having to constantly choose, generating doubt and confusion. It is, in short, the fact of being animated by the sense of truth beyond all that is conformism and a contradictory way of life.
The key therefore comes from the inner journey and questioning. To do this, one has to free from various conditionings and from the past. For all psychological accumulations condition and distort the perception of what is. Otherwise we deform, we denature, we settle with the truth. And then nothing makes sense anymore. Isn't this the reality of our daily life?
Self-confidence engenders love and beauty in all things. It's a wonderful feeling to know where you're going and that the path you take will take you there as quickly as possible, isn't it? So then there is success in everything you do. Whether relational, professional or physical.
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