If there is a recurring topic that has settled in almost all chat rooms, it is that of the narcissistic pervert and the toxic person. These terms are overused in an attempt to describe a phenomenon that has always existed. This socio-pathological phenomenon is accentuated by a consumerist era centered on its navel, its disorder and its incessant quest for sensations and its need for identifications.
Is this a violent and egocentric individual? Obviously.
We find this predator almost everywhere, whether morally or sexually. Hidden under the mask of a person as sociable as charismatic and apparently adored by all, he is often seen as someone humble, even benevolent for the most gifted among them. But this is not the case: it is the nightmare of destitute and isolated victims, whose influence is such that they are no longer able to defend themselves or talk to those around them. Denial, guilt, a state of permanent tension and accentuated paranoia often set in.
But how to recognize this assignment?
A narcissistic pervert is difficult to detect at first sight. That is all its strength. It easily slips under the radar. The victim of a manipulator understands the extent of his influence when he is already too settled. He has an oversized ego and therefore has a high opinion of himself. He generally presents himself as a victim and willingly criticizes those around him. We perceive that there is a big gap between what he says he is and what he really is. He needs attention and knows how to charm his prey very well. Of course, he has a reputation that precedes him and excessively criticizes his past relationships, for good reason, the damage caused is legion. His cruel lack of empathy makes him a totally selfish and self-centered being. He feels superior and has no moral principles. He takes pleasure in making suffer, delights in his perversity.
For this he does everything he can to isolate you from others. He deliberately uses vague and ambiguous language to drown the fish. He uses guilt to put the other in a weak position. The hypersensitive profile is the typical prey. No need to add that he is a pathological liar.
But how to get rid of a PN and especially how to no longer attract this type of toxic influence towards oneself?
It should be noted that regularly, the victim of a narcissistic pervert tends to be in a situation of emotional dependence. And this is what must be addressed, because depending on anything implies a loss of freedom, enslavement, moral and physical violence, deep distress. But what makes us emotionally dependent? Is it the need to be loved, is it judgment and guilt? Is it a degraded image that one carries within oneself, resulting from a trauma suffered in childhood?
An abandoned child, for example, will feel guilty and develop a certain image of himself as responsible for the departure of a parent, then he will judge himself severely. He will then compensate by becoming attached to the other in a permanent need for security, for fear of being abandoned again. This form of dependence is translated in the form of a submission which will involve all the drifts and the justifications. It is then that the predator appears, to dominate this psychologically fragile being.
It is by understanding the psychological mechanisms at work in the trauma, the construction of the image, the judgment and the guilt, the violence, the emotional disorder, the submission then the denial that one can free oneself from the vicious circle. in which the victim is stuck.
Well-being coaching makes it possible to find this emotional balance which does not depend on any influence and which is therefore "psychologically autonomous. So no toxic influence can influence it anymore.
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