Emotional pain seems to have become the new scourge of modern times. Individuals affected by emotional disorders are legion, it is a worrying phenomenon. What has happened ?
It is a suffering from the “me”. Let's take a good look... The self is the ego, the me, the I, the center from which one judges, compares, censures, conditions, deforms as one pleases. It is an exclusive activity centered on itself: one's own salutes , fulfillment, happiness, anxiety, suffering... It operates from a center isolated from the rest of humanity. Isn't this constant attention given to oneself, one's individuality and all the rest, the beginning of all the tensions? Isn't that the root of all the trouble?
He may marry and have children, but he lives an isolated life with no real relationship to others. Each refining his image, his status, his career. And everyone does the same. So these are two images that cohabit, there is no direct relationship. This is where all relationship conflicts arise. Being in relationship involves sharing the same concerns at the same time with the same intensity.
Modern psychology does not really address this aspect of the problem of the ego and the relationship to the other... The fact is that the "me" is at the origin of the various contradictions, of the divisions linked to the nature ego centered in all its activities.
The self thinks of itself as unique and only works for its own company, sold out. Only this "center of the world" is important. It is the beginning of all problems, of all emotional, relational and physical disturbances.
And then there is the pain, physical and psychological. The first is forgotten in time, while the second endures. The reason is simple: it is by psychologically nurturing the memory of pain, which makes possible and gives continuity to suffering. If we can forget about physical pain, why do we have such a hard time freeing ourselves from emotional pain?
All relationship problems are engendered by a deeply individualistic lifestyle.
If one is only concerned by his desires and his ambitions and the other does the same, then is it possible to make two beings live together without living in conflicts and contradictions? Trying to make two beings adapt, each pursuing their own "becoming" seems to be an illusion. The relationship is doomed. After a few months of pleasures and discoveries, she stagnates and then gets bogged down. We then stay together out of habit, fear of loneliness, sexual dependence, attachment, etc. Without love, because love is not attachment.
In a way, we give importance to our emotional suffering to give importance to our self, to who we are.
The pain is in the accumulation, the past, the thought, which are reactions of memory. And it is the image that we have of ourselves that is injured, because without an image, there are no injuries. We give importance to the self because we are empty and superficial.
The person who says "I" is a form of illusion, of accumulation over time, a psychological construction without depth, a series of images forming a fragmentation:
being a man, worker or business manager, husband, father, Catholic, right-wing, French, Parisian, owner or tenant, marathon runner or Sunday jogger, it doesn't matter. Only images that try to coexist to form a unified whole, in fragmentation. But the fragmented being is full of contradictions, of course. Contradiction breeds conflict and confusion. We flee this state of affairs in distraction.
Is it possible to live the present without the weight of the past, without being encumbered by conditioning, free from projection and rushing forward? How can we discover this? With conditioned thought? Really ? No.
When we observe the psychological mechanisms linked to the construction of the ego and the latter is silent, we perceive the disorder it generates. We then discover what order is. We put an end to traditional thinking. Then a quality of attention is possible, and a new form of unconditioned action can emerge.
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